Flashback: May 9 to 12, 2008

May 9: The tendency to think about Lucy has faded, but when it happens, I can clearly feel the depression coming, so I’m not going to contact her. But I don’t want to be rude, so I’ll keep behaving normally, should she contact me.

May 10: I’ve begun playing World of Warcraft in a private server, but it’s not the same thing as the original… Still, given my current level of depression, this castrated and low-populated version should be enough for now.

Lucy contacted me in the afternoon, and it wasn’t hard to behave normally, to the point I was able to make jokes and have some honest laughs. But soon after the conversation ended, I seemed to notice a small worsening in my mood so I readily drank some beer at dinner, in one of the rare days my mom drink that instead of wine (practically when we eat pizza). So alcohol could be one of my last-resort aids in coping with my problems until I’ll feel the real need to see a psychiatrist.

Finally, tonight my mind wandered again about those chats I’ve read some days ago (good lord tell me why I’ve done that!), and this still makes me feel depressed. I’ll forget everything soon, I hope, as it has already happened in the past.

May 12: In the morning I was stressed, mainly because I was too obsessed with WoW. In the afternoon I had a lesson to follow so I had to took the train, but Lucy didn’t took that one this time, don’t know if this was a bad or a good thing. Still, during the lesson I got bored and I thought again about her… This is still depressing for me, but it looks like these thoughts are easier to control now.

“I still cannot explain clearly why I was depressed at the time, everytime I think of having a clue, my theories are torn to pieces by seemingly random mood swings. My best guess is based on what seemed to be the trigger: reading my old chats with Lucy. This episode apparently brought up mixed feelings of nostalgia and inferiority, because at the time of those chats our relationship was still fresh and stimulating, and she was single too, so I may have failed in catching any sign of interest from her, if there were any. Now I’m pretty sure how I’ve never been interested in romantic relationships and probably I never will, so I will hardly get depressed again for a girl.”

One hour-long attention span

Nothing relevant happened today, did some more studying, and lost almost a hundred hair, yeah! Like I have so many of them I could sell them to wig makers… It’s so depressing and frustrating, nothing seem to get better in my life, perhaps excluding my university performance, and even if I don’t care for the most part about my life being a complete failure, I have already enough health concerns to think of, I don’t really need other new shit to worry about.

So I started taking some food supplements and applying some kind of lotion in the hope of stopping this sudden hair loss. I might just believe those who say my problems are all psychosomatic, but even if they are what can I do? Doing what I like instead of doing what people expect me to do never helped with my sleep, psoriasis or digestion, so why should it help with hair loss? If it is really situational depression, then the only way I can see to exit this situation is to kill myself, because the situation is the way life works in this fucking society.

But this isn’t what I meant to write tonight, I’m going to analyze in some detail how I live social situations with my friends from a specific point of view: tonight we went out to eat and drink something, and for the first hour or so I was more or less comfortable, the topics of conversation were related to video games or computer science so it was not impossible for me to say something, even if it they were mostly remarks. But then my ability to concentrate started to fade, and I really was having a hard time following the conversations, especially since I wasn’t much interested about the usual WoW-related discussions between my two friends. Unfortunately, my friends sometimes expected me to participate in the conversation and actually understand what they said, so I had to make some serious efforts to follow through their chat.

I don’t know if this drop in my ability to concentrate was somewhat related to the pub getting more crowded, but I don’t think so, I wasn’t much anxious, probably because there were no girls in the near surroundings. What I can say for sure is that one hour is a limit I encounter often while following university lessons, doing psychotherapy or playing guitar, after that hour it looks like I suddenly get bored and need to do something else. Weird, indeed, but the pattern suggests how this ease of boredom is a primary factor that undermines most of my daily activities, and solving that will probably lead me a long way in improving my life. Now if only I could know what’s the cause… I’m not even confident an average psychiatrist will have a clue, and by the way, I fear them. I’m sure they’ll instantly try to medicate me, but I’m not going to take medication until I’ll be fucking sure I really need it, I’m not going to ruin my life even more by becoming addicted to some drug.

Flashback: May 8, 2008

“This is the first entry in the Flashback series. In this series I’m going to post, more or less untouched (translation skills apart), the more interesting bits of a diary I started sometime ago to track my mood changes. “

Morning’s been hard, as has always been in the past few days but, luckily, the laboratory lesson helped in keeping me distracted.
The thoughts were the same I have when I’m depressed, but lately I think a lot about Lucy (especially after I’ve been reading our old chats). Honestly, I don’t know what my brain is thinking of, but I don’t think it’s love, because love should brings happiness and joy, not depression.
However, I can’t exclude I’m feeling depressed because she have a boyfriend.
In the afternoon I went fishing by cycling, while listening to some crappy, but relaxing, country music, trying to reproduce the feelings of “well being” I felt yesterday while walking the dog whilst listening and singing to Elio e le Storie Tese. It worked. As a bonus, I’ve realized how my depression might be a consequence of the (forced) withdrawal from World of Warcraft, by which I was, and I’m still, obsessed. Then I decided to start this diary for better analyzing my changes in mood over time.
The thoughts about the obsession are mostly hypothesis, but having noticed how other video games are of little help in drowning out the depression, it’s not a completely made up one.
So I think it’ll be worthwhile to look for alternatives to this shitty dial-up connection, like UMTS or HSDPA, even if they’re not that promising, and in the meantime I’ll resume playing WoW in private servers.

“So that’s basically how I feel when I’m departed from my obsessions. Lucy was an obsession too, that fortunately didn’t last for long. As a side note, I originally used the term “mania” to refer to my obsessions… apparently I wasn’t that much informed about Bipolar Disorder at the time.”